What is Your Secret Body Language Saying To Others?

by Royane Real

You already know that you can communicate with other people by using words and language to express yourself.

But did you know that you are constantly communicating your inner feelings to all the people around you, even if you never say a word?

How does this happen? 

Your body and face are always sending out signals to other people, and other people are constantly picking up the signals that you send them.  We are all doing this all the time, but most of the time we are not conscious of it.

Often we use the term “body language” when we talk about the hidden messages and signals that our body is sending out to other people.

Every time you make a face, or roll your eyes, or shrug your shoulders or smile at someone, you are using your face and body to send out signals about your mood and feelings.

No matter what your words are saying, your body language may be telling others that you are pleased or displeased, or that you are bored or tired or sad or angry.  You may not mean to let other people know your inner feelings, but they will probably be able to tell from the expression on your face.

When you stand up straight with the muscles in your body very tight and with your posture rigid, you are sending out one kind of message.  This tells other people you’re you are tense or angry.

When you sprawl on the couch in a relaxed way, you send another kind of message about your mood. Having a relaxed posture tells others that you feel comfortable in your current situation.  You won’t need to say with your words that you are feeling relaxed and comfortable, other people will be able to tell your inner state by seeing the way you move your body.

Our body language is such an important part of how we interact with other people, that body language experts say the messages we send when we use words only account for 7% of what we are communicating to others.  The rest of what we are communicating, the other 93%, is conveyed by the way we hold ourselves, the gestures we make, our tone of voice, and the facial expressions we use.

If you want to be successful in your social life, it’s important to understand how body language works. If we don’t understand the secret messages of body language, we could be frightening people away even when we want them to be closer to us.  If we understand body language better, we can attract to us those whom we want to attract.

This article is written by Royane Real, author of the new book “Guide to Finding Friends, Making Friends, and Keeping Friends” To learn more about how to attract people and make them your friends, download it now for just $16.76 US.